Intersections Of Fat and Gender- It’s Not About What You Find Attractive

Posted: September 7, 2014 in Uncategorized

I was thinking about an article I saw online about “fat feminism” and reading the comments, a lot of men kept commenting how women can be fat if they want but can’t expect men to find us attractive. This is a really common anti-fat comment. And it’s always, that I’ve seen, directed at fat women regarding straight men’s attractions. 

Now there are few issues with this. First off is the part where- what makes you think we care that you find us attractive? And it is you personally, you do not speak for all men, because somewhere out there is a man who is attracted to a woman regardless of her size. We are not desperate for you to desire us. There is also the part of- what makes you think we care about any men finding us attractive? Newsflash- not all fat women are straight.

But beyond these basic points, I think there is a far more troubling issue with these responses. There is something very troubling about the sexism in responding to fat women talking about fat oppression with comments on how you don’t find fat women attractive. As if our worth is measure only in the degree to which you want to fuck us. 

Fat women say we want to be treated equally and with respect.

You respond “but I don’t find you attractive”.

What you are saying is- you don’t think women are deserving of basic human dignity and respect unless you want to fuck us.

What your saying is, you don’t view women as actual people.

Because the right to be treated with basic dignity and respect is one all people are entitled. And men are never told that their rights are dependent on whether or not anyone else finds them physically attractive. 

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